The Calm Before A Storm
We would all cruise through life if there wasn’t any expectations placed on us. However it is impossible to live life without having expectations for yourself and expectations that are placed on you by loved ones. For me that expectation, that I constantly heard was “Be a doctor,” from my mom. As far as my memory goes back, that phrase “Be a doctor,” is there. Now, thankfully I didn’t give it to anything I didn’t want to do, nor was I forced to. I thought it was the end of hearing that dreadful phrase when suddenly it resurged in multiple completely new forms and this time it wasn’t just my mother. These phrases (“ “Your going to make nothing as a therapist,” “Why don’t you become a real doctor",” “Good luck following your passion,” and last but not least, “Everyone you love, even your girlfriend will leave you because your not going to be successful.”) are not only hurtful but they incite so much doubt in my own mind, undermining some of the confidence I have in myself. I mean it’s not everyday you except those you consider family, friends, and peers to say such discouraging things. Though, it’s my mother’s dialogue that gets to me the most because although she sounds crazy, she means well because she is only worrying about my well being and future. I would appreciate it if she didn’t talk about things she doesn’t fully understand because despite thinking she is helping me she is actually making me dislike her voice and also chipping away at my own beliefs. All these damn expectations cause rifts between one and the people putting the expectations on them while also causing one to lose faith in oneself. I have always been calm, even if I knew or didn’t know what I was doing or what could happen to me. However all I ask and wish is to be understood and trusted completely by those who mean the most to me. Thanks Dad, you're a real one. -streak 1/7 blogs
"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."-Frankl
This is my response- Srijan Makkena
